Marriage Therapy Radio

with Laura Heck & Zach Brittle

1. May 4, 2021 Quadrants (28:15)
2. Apr 27, 2021 WandaVision Wisdom (29:34)
3. Apr 21, 2021 Start, Stop, Continue (23:56)
4. Apr 12, 2021 The 80/80 Marriage (35:45)
5. Apr 6, 2021 Emotional Intelligence 2 (34:42)
6. Mar 30, 2021 Emotional Intelligence 1 (29:56)
7. Mar 22, 2021 Dumb Dads (41:36)
8. Mar 16, 2021 Mailbag (29:05)
9. Mar 10, 2021 Partner in Pain (16:48)
10. Mar 3, 2021 Gratitude (27:24)
11. Feb 23, 2021 w/Catherine O’Brien (27:02)
12. Feb 16, 2021 Valentine’s Day (27:57)
13. Feb 9, 2021 Enduring Vulnerabilities (28:55)
14. Feb 2, 2021 Good Communication (41:21)
15. Jan 26, 2021 Anxiety and Depression (35:48)
16. Jan 19, 2021 Making it Through (37:39)
17. Jan 12, 2021 Laura’s Favorite Things (32:42)
18. Jan 7, 2021 Diff Communication Styles (25:47)
19. Dec 22, 2020 Supporting Habits & Rituals (30:05)
20. Dec 16, 2020 +SPARK in 48hrs (36:42)
21. Dec 8, 2020 Intentional Relationship (32:48)
22. Dec 1, 2020 Conversation—>Conflict (29:43)
23. Nov 25, 2020 Sex: Brakes & Gas (30:34)
24. November 17, 2020 The Pendulum Swing (27:15)
25. November 9, 2020 Listener Questions (30:05)
26. November 4, 2020 Wanna Build a Snowman (36:38)
27. October 20, 2020 The In-Laws (27:11)
28. October 12, 2020 Anger Management (24:20)
29. October 5, 2020 Disrupting the Pattern (26:38)
30. September 29, 2020 The Pilot Episode (38:15)
31. September 22, 2020 Help w/the Pandemic (28:50)
32. September 15, 2020 Hurt Feelings (31:40)
33. September 8, 2020 After the Fight (27:56)
34. September 1, 2020 Interrogation v Invitation (29:59)
35. August 25, 2020 Pause and Attribute (29:59)
36. August 18, 2020 Leadership (29:59)
37. August 11, 2020 Too Much & Not Enough (29:59)
38. August 4, 2020 w/Ni’coel Stark (41:50)
39. July 28, 2020 Insta Inspiration (28:36)
40. July 21, 2020 Getting it Right vs Being Right (17:24)
41. July 14, 2020 The Hamilton Question (25:17)
42. July 7, 2020 Love in the Time of Coronavirus (18:35)
43. June 30, 2020 Good Defenses (26:36)
44. June 23, 2020 w/Roger Nygard (43:22)
45. June 16, 2020 Speaking in Code (25:42)
46. June 10, 2020 Tapping into Your Inner Adult (29:16)
47. June 2, 2020 Listener Question on Pot (25:53)
48. May 28, 2020 Selfish or Self-Care (22:26)
49. May 19, 2020 Self Love with Jonathon Aslay (43:17)
50. May 12, 2020 Dream, Discuss, Decide (33:54)
51. May 5, 2020 w/Dr. Lori Brotto (37:29)
52. April 27, 2020 What’s Your Next (23:40)
53. April 21, 2020 Stop Being so Helpful (28:56)
54. April 14, 2020 Maybe it’s Grief (28:10)
55. April 7, 2020 Listener Questions (32:54)
56. March 31, 2020 Stir Crazy (36:11)
57. March 24, 2020 Birdhouse for your Soul (25:42)
58. March 17, 2020 Zombie Apocalypse (30:37)
59. March 10, 2020 Fight, Flight, or Freeze (22:01)
60. March 3, 2020 Asking for What you Want (27:31)
61. February 25, 2020 Ruin Your Marriage (29:49)
62. February 18, 2020 Relationships & Career (24:13)
63. February 11, 2020 Celebrate 100 Episodes (28:25)
64. February 4, 2020 Date Night w/Tyler Turk (34:05)
65. January 28, 2020 ADHD w/Dr. Ari Tuckman (38:06)
66. January 21, 2020 Great Question (30:12)
67. January 14, 2020 Parenting Teen Girls (38:29)
68. January 2, 2020 Try it This Way (29:57)
69. December 24, 2019 Holiday Grab Bag (25:42)
70. December 10, 2019 Laura’s Holiday Blues (22:48)
71. December 3, 2019 Man’s Burden (26:59)
72. November 20, 2019 Sharing the Load (23:35)
73. November 6, 2019 Work Together (23:50)
74. October 30, 2019 Relational Life Therapy (28:53)
75. October 23, 2019 Coupling with Purpose (23:47)
76. October 15, 2019 w/Dr. Bob Navarra (43:41)
77. October 2, 2019 Anatomy of Marriage (54:46)
78. September 24, 2019 Playing w/Partner (26:26)
79. September 17, 2019 w/Beth Wylie (34:12)
80. September 10, 2019 Predictability (29:58)
81. August 27, 2019 w/Dr. Claudia Grauf-Grounds (29:44)
82. August 21, 2019 Let’s Talk Relationships (25:05)
83. August 13, 2019 4 Horsemen with Charm (49:37)
84. August 6, 2019 Happy Endings (25:57)
85. July 30, 2019 Book Recommendations (26:04)
86. July 23, 2019 Worth Fighting For? (26:15)
87. July 17, 2019 Infidelity – Involved Partner (29:03)
88. July 9, 2019 Premarital Therapy (18:45)
89. July 2, 2019 How to Take a Break (33:25)
90. June 25, 2019 Reunions and Parting (26:08)
91. June 18, 2019 Do You Validate? (20:12)
92. June 11, 2019 Say Yes & No at same time (19:55)
93. June 4, 2019 Be an Action Taker (24:40)
94. May 28, 2019 w/Tina Schermer Sellers, PhD (37:13)
95. May 21, 2019 Listener Question (26:29)
96. May 14, 2019 Social Media Breakup (25:05)
97. May 7, 2019 Masturbation (24:35)
98. April 30, 2019 4 Habits of Happy Marriage (26:48)
99. April 23, 2019 Expectations of Your Partner (21:32)
100. April 16, 2019 One Question Experiment (23:16)
101. April 9, 2019 Breaking Up is Hard to Do (24:48)
102. April 2, 2019 Sleep Tight (24:41)
103. March 19, 2019 We’ve Had This Fight (21:32)
104. March 13, 2019 Connection while Traveling (26:17)
105. March 5, 2019 Anger Management (22:35)
106. Feb 26, 2019 Finances (22:44)
     • talk about & figure out spending ahead of time
     • take notes while listening
107. Feb 19, 2019 Are you Lovable? (22:55)
     • be kind; attempt repair
     • rewarded behaviors are repeated
108. Feb 6, 2019 Defensiveness (22:35)
     • criticism = a request in disguise
109. Jan 30, 2019 Sexual Desire (22:34)
     • difference from arousal
110. Jan 22, 2019 Partner is leaning out (24:02)
     • (therapy)
111. Jan 16, 2019 Marriage Hacks (24:29)
     • think of negatives in your partner as temporary, externally caused instances
     • consider positives in your partner as emblematic of permanent qualities
112. Jan 8, 2019 New Year’s Intentions (24:32)
     • start whenever
     • have separate, shared hobbies
113. Dec 28, 2018 Sex (25:37)
     • what is it?
     • why do you want it?
     • be on one page
114. Dec 18, 2018 Happy Festivus (21:57)
     • importance of rituals
115. Dec 12, 2018 Couples on the Brink (23:07)
     • think of your brain like Grand Central Station
116. Dec 4, 2018 Forgiveness (23:48)
     • abandoning hope for an alternate past
117. Nov 28, 2018 Warm Fuzzies / Cold Pricklies (22:26)
     • parenting your inner child
118. November 20, 2018 Listener Questions (20:59)
     • digital distraction and bonding rituals
119. Nov 7, 2018 Divorce (22:37)
     • Maybe
120. Oct 29, 2018 The Goal of Conflict (20:24)
     • to better understand each other
121. Oct 23, 2018 Housework & Aging (24:00)
     • Two episodes in one
122. Oct 17, 2018 Insecurity and Jealousy (20:40)
     • crossing boundaries outside relationship
123. Oct 9, 2018 Saying Yes (20:01)
     • instead of being dismissive
124. Sep 19, 2018 Therapeutic Convos (23:12)
     1. What is your story?
     2. What’s a thing you don’t know about partner?
     3. pivot points (delineating moments)
125. Sep 12, 2018 Listener Questions (19:52)
     1. couples vs individual counseling
     2. accountability
     3. same sex page
126. Aug 28, 2018 Marriage Retreats (23:41)
     • Why go
127. Aug 14, 2018 Premarital Counseling (25:49)
     • Clearly answer:
       1. Why THIS person?
       2. Why MARRIAGE?
       3. Why MARRIAGE to THIS person?
     • Identify perpetual conflicts
     • Expectations for roles
128. Aug 7, 2018 Perpetual Problems (20:58)
     • Weigh Cost Benefit Analysis
     • view implicit dilemmas as a team
129. Jul 30, 2018 The Four Horsemen (29:59)
     • If unchecked, these predict divorce:
       1. Criticism – turning specific problems into character flaws
       2. Defensiveness – assuming inappropriate amount of responsibility
       3. Stonewalling – refusal to communicate
       4. Contempt – feeling superior
130. Jul 25, 2018 Your Experience is Valid (24:30)
     • Differing perspectives / styles
     • Lean in to your partner; be curious
131. Jul 10, 2018 Your Marriage Social Network (21:52)
     • Support for you; support for your marriage
132. Jun 13, 2018 Partner has Changed (24:21)
     • Good? How to deal
133. Jun 5, 2018 Play (24:55)
     • Literally.
134. May 22, 2018 Good Communication (23:27)
     • How to set your partner up to understand you
135. May 15, 2018 Purpose of Your Marriage? (19:51)
     • How it’s changed over time
136. May 7, 2018 Out of the Comfort Zone (20:08)
     • Shake up your routine, and grow
137. Apr 30, 2018 Listener Question (22:41)
     • Rate relationship in each facet of intimacy:
       1. Physical
       2. Sexual
       3. Intellectual
       4. Emotional
       5. Spiritual
     • Wizard of Oz effect (because x5)
138. April 24, 2018 Break of Trust (22:41)
     • you can rebuild, but it takes a lot
     • Hamilton‘s biggest betrayal of Eliza
139. April 17, 2018 Emotional Currency (16:57)
     • speak each other’s love language
140. April 10, 2018 Emotional Intelligence (22:10)
     1. Awareness of one’s own emotions
     2. Awareness of other’s emotions
     3. Managing one’s own emotions
     4. Managing relationships
141. April 2, 2018 Why Money Matters (25:06)
     • trust
142. March 26, 2018 Overdrawn Relationship? (19:24)
     • emotional bank account
     • people find what we look for; seek gratitude
143. March 12, 2018 Traditional Relationship (18:30)
     • power balance
144. March 5, 2018 Happy Relationship Secret (23:55)
     • ARE you there for me? (Accessibility, Responsiveness, Engagement)
     • honor each other’s dreams
     • imagination and hope
145. Feb 26, 2018 7 Day Lovers’ Challenge (13:05)
     • Turn-On points game – 15/week
146. Feb 20, 2018 Cell Phone Addiction (24:13)
     • create rules, like removing shoes at door
147. Feb 13, 2018 Boring Relationship (23:45)
     • gamify it; boring people get bored
148. Feb 5, 2018 Couple Recs (26:53)
     • books:
     • The Course of Love: A Novel by Alain de Botton
     • Not Just Friends: Rebuilding Trust and Recovering Your Sanity After Infidelity by Jean Coppock Staeheli and Shirley Glass
     • Nonviolent Communication: A Language of Life by Marshall Rosenberg
     • podcasts:
     • You Made It Weird with Pete Holmes
     • Foreplay Radio Sex Therapy
     • blogs:
     • The Gottman Institute (also great for finding a counselor)
     • (any food blogs)
     • apps:
     • Blue Apron (to cook together with no lead)
     • (date night helpers like) Open Table, Fandango, and Groupon
     • TV/movies:
     • The Affair (Showtime)
     • The Disappearance of Eleanor Rigby {Him, Her, & Them}
149. Jan 29, 2018 Why Bother? (19:14)
150. Jan 22, 2018 Married with Children (23:10)
151. Jan 15, 2018 Marriage Therapy (19:28)
152. Jan 8, 2018 New Start for a New Year (15:26)
153. Dec 18, 2017 Partner Against Stress (19:32)
154. Dec 11, 2017 Manage Stress (14:41)
155. Dec 5, 2017 Crack the Intimacy Code (18:55)
156. Nov 27, 2017 Win the Weekend (16:35)
157. Nov 20, 2017 Conversations (13:29)
158. Nov 13, 2017 Roommate Syndrome (13:35)
159. Nov 6, 2017 How to Repair (12:21)
160. Oct 30, 2017 How to Apologize (11:55)
161. Oct 23, 2017 How to Skydive (12:02)
162. Oct 16, 2017 How to Avoid Conflict (11:56)

discussing fictional couples: