with Laura Heck & Zach Brittle
- May 4, 2021 Quadrants (28:15)
- Apr 27, 2021 WandaVision Wisdom (29:34)
- Apr 21, 2021 Start, Stop, Continue (23:56)
- Apr 12, 2021 The 80/80 Marriage (35:45)
- Apr 6, 2021 Emotional Intelligence 2 (34:42)
- Mar 30, 2021 Emotional Intelligence 1 (29:56)
- Mar 22, 2021 Dumb Dads (41:36)
- Mar 16, 2021 Mailbag (29:05)
- Mar 10, 2021 Partner in Pain (16:48)
- Mar 3, 2021 Gratitude (27:24)
- Feb 23, 2021 w/Catherine O’Brien (27:02)
- Feb 16, 2021 Valentine’s Day (27:57)
- Feb 9, 2021 Enduring Vulnerabilities (28:55)
- Feb 2, 2021 Good Communication (41:21)
- Jan 26, 2021 Anxiety and Depression (35:48)
- Jan 19, 2021 Making it Through (37:39)
- Jan 12, 2021 Laura’s Favorite Things (32:42)
- Jan 7, 2021 Diff Communication Styles (25:47)
- Dec 22, 2020 Supporting Habits & Rituals (30:05)
- Dec 16, 2020 +SPARK in 48hrs (36:42)
- Dec 8, 2020 Intentional Relationship (32:48)
- Dec 1, 2020 Conversation—>Conflict (29:43)
- Nov 25, 2020 Sex: Brakes & Gas (30:34)
- November 17, 2020 The Pendulum Swing (27:15)
- November 9, 2020 Listener Questions (30:05)
- November 4, 2020 Wanna Build a Snowman (36:38)
- October 20, 2020 The In-Laws (27:11)
- October 12, 2020 Anger Management (24:20)
- October 5, 2020 Disrupting the Pattern (26:38)
- September 29, 2020 The Pilot Episode (38:15)
- September 22, 2020 Help w/the Pandemic (28:50)
- September 15, 2020 Hurt Feelings (31:40)
- September 8, 2020 After the Fight (27:56)
- September 1, 2020 Interrogation v Invitation (29:59)
- August 25, 2020 Pause and Attribute (29:59)
- August 18, 2020 Leadership (29:59)
- August 11, 2020 Too Much & Not Enough (29:59)
- August 4, 2020 w/Ni’coel Stark (41:50)
- July 28, 2020 Insta Inspiration (28:36)
- July 21, 2020 Getting it Right vs Being Right (17:24)
- July 14, 2020 The Hamilton Question (25:17)
- July 7, 2020 Love in the Time of Coronavirus (18:35)
- June 30, 2020 Good Defenses (26:36)
- June 23, 2020 w/Roger Nygard (43:22)
- June 16, 2020 Speaking in Code (25:42)
- June 10, 2020 Tapping into Your Inner Adult (29:16)
- June 2, 2020 Listener Question on Pot (25:53)
- May 28, 2020 Selfish or Self-Care (22:26)
- May 19, 2020 Self Love with Jonathon Aslay (43:17)
- May 12, 2020 Dream, Discuss, Decide (33:54)
- May 5, 2020 w/Dr. Lori Brotto (37:29)
- April 27, 2020 What’s Your Next (23:40)
- April 21, 2020 Stop Being so Helpful (28:56)
- April 14, 2020 Maybe it’s Grief (28:10)
- April 7, 2020 Listener Questions (32:54)
- March 31, 2020 Stir Crazy (36:11)
- March 24, 2020 Birdhouse for your Soul (25:42)
- March 17, 2020 Zombie Apocalypse (30:37)
- March 10, 2020 Fight, Flight, or Freeze (22:01)
- March 3, 2020 Asking for What you Want (27:31)
- February 25, 2020 Ruin Your Marriage (29:49)
- February 18, 2020 Relationships & Career (24:13)
- February 11, 2020 Celebrate 100 Episodes (28:25)
- February 4, 2020 Date Night w/Tyler Turk (34:05)
- January 28, 2020 ADHD w/Dr. Ari Tuckman (38:06)
- January 21, 2020 Great Question (30:12)
- January 14, 2020 Parenting Teen Girls (38:29)
- January 2, 2020 Try it This Way (29:57)
- December 24, 2019 Holiday Grab Bag (25:42)
- December 10, 2019 Laura’s Holiday Blues (22:48)
- December 3, 2019 Man’s Burden (26:59)
- November 20, 2019 Sharing the Load (23:35)
- November 6, 2019 Work Together (23:50)
- October 30, 2019 Relational Life Therapy (28:53)
- October 23, 2019 Coupling with Purpose (23:47)
- October 15, 2019 w/Dr. Bob Navarra (43:41)
- October 2, 2019 Anatomy of Marriage (54:46)
- September 24, 2019 Playing w/Partner (26:26)
- September 17, 2019 w/Beth Wylie (34:12)
- September 10, 2019 Predictability (29:58)
- August 27, 2019 w/Dr. Claudia Grauf-Grounds (29:44)
- August 21, 2019 Let’s Talk Relationships (25:05)
- August 13, 2019 4 Horsemen with Charm (49:37)
- August 6, 2019 Happy Endings (25:57)
- July 30, 2019 Book Recommendations (26:04)
- July 23, 2019 Worth Fighting For? (26:15)
- July 17, 2019 Infidelity – Involved Partner (29:03)
- July 9, 2019 Premarital Therapy (18:45)
- July 2, 2019 How to Take a Break (33:25)
- June 25, 2019 Reunions and Parting (26:08)
- June 18, 2019 Do You Validate? (20:12)
- June 11, 2019 Say Yes & No at same time (19:55)
- June 4, 2019 Be an Action Taker (24:40)
- May 28, 2019 w/Tina Schermer Sellers, PhD (37:13)
- May 21, 2019 Listener Question (26:29)
- May 14, 2019 Social Media Breakup (25:05)
- May 7, 2019 Masturbation (24:35)
- April 30, 2019 4 Habits of Happy Marriage (26:48)
- April 23, 2019 Expectations of Your Partner (21:32)
- April 16, 2019 One Question Experiment (23:16)
- April 9, 2019 Breaking Up is Hard to Do (24:48)
- April 2, 2019 Sleep Tight (24:41)
- March 19, 2019 We’ve Had This Fight (21:32)
- March 13, 2019 Connection while Traveling (26:17)
- March 5, 2019 Anger Management (22:35)
- Feb 26, 2019 Finances (22:44)
- talk about & figure out spending ahead of time
- take notes while listening
- Feb 19, 2019 Are you Lovable? (22:55)
- be kind; attempt repair
- rewarded behaviors are repeated
- Feb 6, 2019 Defensiveness (22:35)
- criticism = a request in disguise
- Jan 30, 2019 Sexual Desire (22:34)
- difference from arousal
- Jan 22, 2019 Partner is leaning out (24:02)
- (therapy)
- Jan 16, 2019 Marriage Hacks (24:29)
- think of negatives in your partner as temporary, externally caused instances
- consider positives in your partner as emblematic of permanent qualities
- Jan 8, 2019 New Year’s Intentions (24:32)
- start whenever
- have separate, shared hobbies
- Dec 28, 2018 Sex (25:37)
- what is it?
- why do you want it?
- be on one page
- Dec 18, 2018 Happy Festivus (21:57)
- importance of rituals
- Dec 12, 2018 Couples on the Brink (23:07)
- think of your brain like Grand Central Station
- Dec 4, 2018 Forgiveness (23:48)
- abandoning hope for an alternate past
- Nov 28, 2018 Warm Fuzzies / Cold Pricklies (22:26)
- parenting your inner child
- November 20, 2018 Listener Questions (20:59)
- digital distraction and bonding rituals
- Nov 7, 2018 Divorce (22:37)
- Maybe
- Oct 29, 2018 The Goal of Conflict (20:24)
- to better understand each other
- Oct 23, 2018 Housework & Aging (24:00)
- Two episodes in one
- Oct 17, 2018 Insecurity and Jealousy (20:40)
- crossing boundaries outside relationship
- Oct 9, 2018 Saying Yes (20:01)
- instead of being dismissive
- Sep 19, 2018 Therapeutic Convos (23:12)
- What is your story?
- What’s a thing you don’t know about partner?
- pivot points (delineating moments)
- Sep 12, 2018 Listener Questions (19:52)
- couples vs individual counseling
- accountability
- same sex page
- Aug 28, 2018 Marriage Retreats (23:41)
- Why go
- Aug 14, 2018 Premarital Counseling (25:49)
- Clearly answer:
- Why THIS person?
- Why MARRIAGE?
- Why MARRIAGE to THIS person?
- Identify perpetual conflicts
- Expectations for roles
- Clearly answer:
- Aug 7, 2018 Perpetual Problems (20:58)
- Weigh Cost Benefit Analysis
- view implicit dilemmas as a team
- Jul 30, 2018 The Four Horsemen (29:59)
- If unchecked, these predict divorce:
- Criticism – turning specific problems into character flaws
- Defensiveness – assuming inappropriate amount of responsibility
- Stonewalling – refusal to communicate
- Contempt – feeling superior
- If unchecked, these predict divorce:
- Jul 25, 2018 Your Experience is Valid (24:30)
- Differing perspectives / styles
- Lean in to your partner; be curious
- Jul 10, 2018 Your Marriage Social Network (21:52)
- Support for you; support for your marriage
- Jun 13, 2018 Partner has Changed (24:21)
- Good? How to deal
- Jun 5, 2018 Play (24:55)
- Literally.
- May 22, 2018 Good Communication (23:27)
- How to set your partner up to understand you
- May 15, 2018 Purpose of Your Marriage? (19:51)
- How it’s changed over time
- May 7, 2018 Out of the Comfort Zone (20:08)
- Shake up your routine, and grow
- Apr 30, 2018 Listener Question (22:41)
- Rate relationship in each facet of intimacy:
- Physical
- Sexual
- Intellectual
- Emotional
- Spiritual
- Wizard of Oz effect (because x5)
- Rate relationship in each facet of intimacy:
- April 24, 2018 Break of Trust (22:41)
- you can rebuild, but it takes a lot
- Hamilton‘s biggest betrayal of Eliza
- April 17, 2018 Emotional Currency (16:57)
- speak each other’s love language
- April 10, 2018 Emotional Intelligence (22:10)
- Awareness of one’s own emotions
- Awareness of other’s emotions
- Managing one’s own emotions
- Managing relationships
- April 2, 2018 Why Money Matters (25:06)
- trust
- March 26, 2018 Overdrawn Relationship? (19:24)
- emotional bank account
- people find what we look for; seek gratitude
- March 12, 2018 Traditional Relationship (18:30)
- power balance
- March 5, 2018 Happy Relationship Secret (23:55)
- ARE you there for me? (Accessibility, Responsiveness, Engagement)
- honor each other’s dreams
- imagination and hope
- Feb 26, 2018 7 Day Lovers’ Challenge (13:05)
- Turn-On points game – 15/week
- Feb 20, 2018 Cell Phone Addiction (24:13)
- create rules, like removing shoes at door
- Feb 13, 2018 Boring Relationship (23:45)
- gamify it; boring people get bored
- Feb 5, 2018 Couple Recs (26:53)
- books:
- The Course of Love: A Novel by Alain de Botton
- Not Just Friends: Rebuilding Trust and Recovering Your Sanity After Infidelity by Jean Coppock Staeheli and Shirley Glass
- Nonviolent Communication: A Language of Life by Marshall Rosenberg
- podcasts:
- You Made It Weird with Pete Holmes
- Foreplay Radio Sex Therapy
- blogs:
- The Gottman Institute (also great for finding a counselor)
- (any food blogs)
- apps:
- Blue Apron (to cook together with no lead)
- (date night helpers like) Open Table, Fandango, and Groupon
- TV/movies:
- The Affair (Showtime)
- The Disappearance of Eleanor Rigby {Him, Her, & Them}
- Jan 29, 2018 Why Bother? (19:14)
- Jan 22, 2018 Married with Children (23:10)
- Jan 15, 2018 Marriage Therapy (19:28)
- Jan 8, 2018 New Start for a New Year (15:26)
- Dec 18, 2017 Partner Against Stress (19:32)
- Dec 11, 2017 Manage Stress (14:41)
- Dec 5, 2017 Crack the Intimacy Code (18:55)
- Nov 27, 2017 Win the Weekend (16:35)
- Nov 20, 2017 Conversations (13:29)
- Nov 13, 2017 Roommate Syndrome (13:35)
- Nov 6, 2017 How to Repair (12:21)
- Oct 30, 2017 How to Apologize (11:55)
- Oct 23, 2017 How to Skydive (12:02)
- Oct 16, 2017 How to Avoid Conflict (11:56)